I used to have a real issue with wanting to be heard. I actually wasn’t heard, really. I felt not valid…unworthy.
My solution was to be louder in a figurative sense. I would go for quantity when it came to opinions. Tell it like it is. Yes, that would get me heard for sure. Except it didn’t.
It turns out that not only is what I say important in being heard, it’s also the timing…knowing when to say it and when not to say it. And timing requires listening…not for the short pause your counterpart creates in sucking air between sentences so that you can break in with your verbal insecurity. But listening so that what you say is spoken truth into a persons life.
In other words, if you want to be heard… start hearing.